Confidence and Self-Esteem

The way you think and feel about yourself can be summarised as your self-esteem. Often self-esteem encompasses strong beliefs about the self in regards to what you believe you deserve... and what you are worthy of as a person.

Self-confidence is the trust that you have in yourself and your abilities. Realistic feelings of confidence and positive self-esteem affect how you feel about others and how successful you are in life.

People with healthy self-esteem like themselves and value their achievement. They are flexible and grow from their mistakes without fear of rejection. However,  self-esteem can be negatively affected by life experiences like, for example, a relationship breakdown or being made redundant or bullied at work.  This leads to self-doubt which undermines one's self-esteem. A vicious cycle can ensue leaving people feeling worthless, insecure and lacking in confidence.

Low self-esteem fosters many unhealthy behaviours. It is associated with depression and is characterised by loss of motivation, feelings  of hopelessness, worthlessness and incompetence, as well as an overall negative view of life. Additional signs of low self-esteem are:

  • Self-pity
  • Fear of  being ridiculed
  • Fear of taking risks
  • Mistrusting others
  • Blaming others
  • Focusing on the past
  • A perfectionist attitude
  • Strong need for approval and support
  • Anger

Self-confidence and self-esteem are learned, not inherited, and can therefore  be replaced by new learning.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy as well as positive psychology is helpful in treating low self-esteem, while psychotherapy also helps to develop confidence and self-esteem.  In addition, counselling can help sufferers to solve problems that can be solved; accept situations that cannot be changed, and reduce physical stress with meditation. Finally, sufferers are taught to appreciate the positive aspects of their life.

If you would like support to address any self-esteem issues contact Jennifer Rosen to organise a confidential initial consultation.